The most important day in your life

  Mark Twain said “The two most important days in your life are the day you are born and the day you find out why.” Purpose. It can pull us forward and give meaning to our lives. It can energize and motivate us. It is bigger than we are. We can also feel self-doubt and
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One easy fix for procrastination

Do you procrastinate? My client Emily (not her real name) puts off financial tasks as a way to manage her anxiety over money. Josh puts things off because he is too tired from work to even think of starting something else. And Adrion is an artist who dislikes tedious, detailed work. She avoids it. And
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Small things

In the wonderful (and sadly defunct) column Since You Asked by Cary Tennis, a reader asked how she could become happy again. She said she was sad and depressed, for a large number of small reasons. Cary answered that becoming happy was similar. We become happy for a large number of small reasons. The trick is to
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Dealing with a transition

I’ve been sad these last few weeks, for a happy reason. My beautiful, gifted daughter has graduated high school. I wanted her for years before she was born, worked through years of fertility treatments, and have been so happy and grateful (most days) to be the mother of a child – this specific, wonderful child.
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What do we do with “should”?

Do you think “should” is a bad word? It certainly gets a bad rap. It is earned? Possibly. “Should” with anxious, guilty feelings can be paralyzing. So can regret. Struggling with someone else’s values can hold you back. And yet… Isn’t “should” one of the building blocks of our conscience? Isn’t it one of the
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